Who is Better Than You!!? Who Deserves Success More Than You? NO ONE!!
Who is better than you!!? Who Deserves Success more than you? NO ONE!! This may seem like a very easy question and on the surface we all respond, “No one is better than us.” But the reality is that deep down in our hearts, many of us don’t believe it!!
As children we were told NO way more than YES. We were told what we couldn’t do; what was impossible to achieve; what not to try; what not to believe; and to play it safe. We were told that certain things such as wealth, success and happiness were for special people and not us.
I believed successful people were different from me, and I often asked God,“What was wrong with me?” and “How come I wasn’t successful?” or “Why couldn’t I have those things that other people had?” I did not know success was for all.
Listen, I barely made it through my teenage years alive let alone develop a belief that I deserved success. Growing up my parents did the best they could to instill some positive values in me - considering they too were functioning on limited knowledge. Their primary beliefs were to work hard, be a Christian and go to church. This is great, but incomplete. True, you should love God and have a spiritual foundation, and work hard, but that’s not all. You should have a firm belief in who you are as a person, with a strong love of yourself, which will strengthen your self-esteem and allow you to achieve anything in this world that you believe you deserve.
As a child I was told that the world was a bad place, filled with unhappiness and misery and that there is too much suffering in the world for me to be happy. I was giving the belief that since so many other people struggled in life,“Why should I be happy?” “What makes me so special?”
Can you see why I struggled early in life!?
If thoughts of unworthiness are anchored in your subconscious mind, success and happiness cannot come to you consistently, even if God himself forced us to receive it! Eventually we would run both success and happiness away. God wants to give you success faster than you can receive it! But you have to be ready to grasp it with the right thoughts, beliefs and actions.
It is very sad that I made it to middle age before I heard someone tell me that I deserved to be happy. That I deserved to be successful! That I deserved to be wealthy. That I deserved to achieve my goals and be abundant. I never crossed my mind. My parents did not tell me, the church didn’t tell me, my friends were just as lost as I was so they couldn’t tell me, your boss definitely won’t tell you what you deserve.
So I ask, if you go through life with the feeling that you don’t deserve to be happy, Can you succeed? I doubt it. If you go through life without giving it any thought at all – you are doing yourself a disservice. You are handicapping your life and stunting your growth, because if you do not believe you deserve happiness you will not get it on a consistent basis.
You will continue to get the mixed mystery bag of life, with more downs than ups, and more failures than successes.
So be encouraged and know that you can have what any other person has and you can do what any other person has done - with planning, hard work, faith, effort and belief!!
Life plays no favorites, the same Sun shines on us all. The same Sun shines on Joe up the street that shines on Bill Gates or any other successful person. Know it, believe it and achieve it!
Decide what you want in life and go get it. Always know and understand this universal truth. No one on this earth is better than you or more deserving than you!!
Have you ever felt like the world was against you? Do people say the meanest things to you? Do others start trouble with you for no reason? Do smart comments by other people drive you crazy and push you over the edge? Well let the church say Amen, because that’s exactly how I felt all the time!
I use to feel that trouble often made it a point to screw up my day. I would be having a good day then and all of a sudden - “BOOM!” somebody would say something to tick me off, to slight me, or to test me - and I was all too ready to play along.
My motto was, “If you start it, then I am going to finish it!” It was like a game of point and click. I was like a tool that others could easily influence by pushing my buttons. If somebody said something that made me angry or hurt my feelings, even if not on purpose, I would respond in a negative way! Without fail, more times than not, I found myself getting angry several times a day. This often led to plentyof arguments and poor personal and business relationships. I found that my angry responses held back progression in my life and caused unnecessary stress. I struggled with this issue for years, until I discovered that we don’t have to respond the way people expect us to respond OR respond the way we feel we should respond at that moment!!
HOW TO OVERCOME THE ANGER RESPONSE
1. The first thing you need to understand is that it’s not about you! When people say mean things, insults or smart comments – it’s about them. Usually they are having issues within themselves such as low self-esteem, unstable life conditions, fear and poor self-image that leads them to feel they have to tear someone else down to build themselves up! So see it for what it really is - a plea for help.
2. Remember we all say things without thinking about our words carefully. We often say hurtful things without the intent to hurt others, so give the other person the benefit of the doubt also.
VERY VERY VERY IMPORTANT!!!
In the book, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, by Joseph Murphy, he explains that what others say cannot really hurt or annoy us unless we LET IT.
He explains that your anger has to go through 4 stages:
1. You have to think about what they said.
2. You have to DECIDE TO GET ANGRY.
3. You have to generate anger.
4. You have to REACT in anger.
Think about that. That’s a lot of steps to go through in order to respond poorly. And the quicker we react angrily - demonstrates that more work needs to be done to improve ourselves.
I now often cut off my anger response at the second or forth step! I either don’t decide to get angry or even if I do get angry, I decide it’s not worth the response and decide not to react! I just let the comment roll off me like water off a duck. I either smile, or act like I never heard the comment or quickly move on to another topic - never giving it any thought or the other person any satisfaction.
Try it! It works and you will find less trouble in your life and be in a much better position with your business and personal relationships! And more importantly - you will find so much more happiness!! And you won't be a button that someone else can easily push.
The Ah-Hah Moments of Life!!
Have you ever had an Ah-Hah moment!!? Where something seemed so hazy and unclear, then all of a sudden as if by magic, something clicks and you get it. These are the moments that life is made of and every time you have such a moment - it is a blessing from God!! Because he has enlightened you with new information that will change your life! These moments are special because you are moving from dark to light, where just seconds before you were blind, but now you see - with your mind’s eye.
These moments are important, because they are like finding priceless jewels in the dirt and they only occur when you are ACTIVELY looking for an answer to a problem. When you are trying to solve an issue - be it financial, relationship or career wise, you are seeking understanding, improvement and growth - and as promised, finding is reserved for the seekers.
One of my Ah-Hah moments came several years ago in regards to tithing and wealth building. I never understood the expectation by God for a person to give when they themselves are in financial trouble. How can a person be expected to give when they don’t have much to give? I didn’t understand this expectation and prior to that point in time, I didn’t like the answers I received. You see, being told do something just because it's the right thing to do is NOT the same as understanding WHY you should do it.
I like to get down to the WHY of things - because it gives me more power when I do decide to do something. So at the time, I found it difficult to set aside the money to tithe, because after I paid the bills it wasn't very much left for anything else. So my tithing was inconsistent at best!! UNTIL, I read Catherine Ponder's book, The Millionaires of GENESIS. She states, “If the farmer refused to give back to the soil a certain percentage of the crops which the soil had given to him, he would have no crops.” Doesn’t that make sense? You can’t have a crop of corn next season, if you don’t plant some of the corn you received this season.” You can’t make more money if you are not willing to give back some of what you have already made. It’s virtually impossible to reap a harvest without planting a seed!
She goes on to say, “Consistent giving to God’s work leads to consistent receiving in your own work.” OK NOW YOU GOT MY ATTENTION! She explains that the act of giving restores a harmony and balance in mind and body which lead to happiness and prosperity. So when you feel out of harmony, you need to give in order to restore balance and abundance. Those who tithe will prosper because they have God as a partner!!
Giving and receiving is a Universal Law, you cannot have one without the other!! We all must give in one way or the other! Either you will give or it will be taken. Choose how and when you give and your life will be so much smoother!! However please remember - it must be consistent giving for consistent receiving. Also, it doesn’t have to be 10 percent to start!! Giving what you can give is better than nothing, and you must give with a good spirit, happy and with no strings attached - you can always work your way up to 10 percent, BUT what’s important is that you give to God and he will give to you!! Ah-Hah!!!
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Hello my internet family!! It's time to Excel in 2012!! This should be a time of excitement, anticipation, participation and planning. This is the time to dive into your new life and dream, imagine, hope and believe!!
Do you want a new job, a new car, a raise, a new business!? Now is the time to decide, because If you don't know what you want in life you will drift through your days like a ship without a rudder or an engine.
What are your desires? What makes you happy?
Do you want better health? Do you want to lose weight? Do you want to learn something new or go back to school?
Decide what it is you want and then take the Magic Step. What is the Magic Step?? I'm soooooooo glad you asked - the Magic step is taking the first step and then taking the next step. Small simple steps lead to greatness.
You Can Do Anything!!! However, the first thing you need to do is take intelligent action and move towards the thing you want!! IN OTHER WORDS decide what it is you want, write it down, and take a small simple action towards that goal.
If you want to go back to school - get on the internet and search local schools. You want a new career? Look up the Occupational Outlook Handbook and review different careers and salaries in different professions. If you want to lose weight look up books on losing weight and buy one.
If you have only 5 dollars to your name, with those 5 dollars you may not be able to do much! But with 5 dollars and God you can do all things!!
You should work "as if everything depended on you and at the same time pray as if everything depended on God." The secret to a better year in 2012 is to add God to the mix!! Let's stop trying to change our world with our small power, but instead let God carry us to success - it is so much easier!!
Listen to your inner voice, when a opportunity becomes available take action, listen to other people who may can help you!! This is how God helps us!! He helps those who help themselves by working through other people. Ask God for the things you want. When I was younger I prayed constantly for wisdom. I wanted increased understanding. A few years ago I prayed constantly for determination, perseverance and follow through, because I would constantly start something new and never finish it!! Now i stay on task and use laser focus to finish projects. God will help you achieve! Just ask, believe, have faith and take action!!!
Last Blog for the Year: INCREASE YOUR UNDERSTANDING!!
Hello All!! First let me say thank you for reading this message and God bless you!!
The New Year is upon us!! It is my favorite time of year!! When the year is fresh and full of promise. When New Year’s resolutions are still young and very possible!! When life seems to have a fresh start!
We should be thankful that God has seen fit to give us another opportunity to live the life we want, and achieve the goals we desire!
This should be a happy time!!
The desire of this blog - is to help all (including myself) recognize and use our inner tools to live a better life. Have you ever sat down and asked yourself, what do you want out of life? Have you ever sat down and asked, what do you want out of this next year? You cannot get anywhere in life if you don’t first have a destination in mind.
God gave us a brain to think!! And unfortunately other than the basic thoughts and reacting to life’s dramas that we create - we don’t use our brain to better ourselves. The creation of your success requires intelligent thought and direction on your part!! That doesn’t mean you have to be Albert Einstein. It just means that you must decide what it is you want, have a mental picture of what you want, believe you can achieve it and then work to get it and never give up!!That is the formula!! That is in the Bible and thousands and thousands of self-help books, prosperity books, and personal development books. They just expand on it more and add the supporting information.
If you have no goal or direction you drift through life with no power! You drift through life while you have the engine of God within you. However the only way you can turn on that engine and use it is through creating a goal and finding a purpose to dedicate your time and energy to.
Don’t focus on lack…what you don’t have. Focus on what you want AND be thankful for what you have.
Read new books to gain understanding. Pray for understanding and you will get it.
Here is a check list of what you need to do start the New Year off right!!
1. Decide on your goals.
2. Write them down.
3. Focus on them.
4. Pray about them.
5. Work hard to achieve them.
6. Decrease your TV time
7. Get around positive people.
8. Read new books to gain wisdom and understanding.
Do this and 2012 will be the launching pad for a new life!!
I leave you with one of my favorite poems:
I bargained with Life for a penny
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store.
For Life is a just employer;
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.
I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have paid.
Jessie B. Rittenhouse
God Bless all. Thank you for supporting me and I truly hope this message will help you grow and achieve a better life through increased understanding!! Please pass it along to help others!!
The New Year is quickly approaching and 2012 will be here in a matter of days!! However let's not focus on the mere passing of time, but on the goal of making next year one of our very best years!!
Did you know that within each of us is a power to achieve and do all things!!? Meaning if you want to lose weight, eat healthier, make more money, quit bad habits, meet a new friend, learn new skills, get a new job, or start a new business. You can do it all if you believe and work to become better.
You can do all this by using the Universal Power within you by accessing the God in you! Only a fortunate few know that this is true - not just talk. You have infinite power to shape and mold your life. Outside circumstances do not have power over you because they can be overcome. You are a part of God! Until you realize this truth you are handicapped and a victim of circumstance, but only because you make it so. God Loves to work through you to achieve good things so anything you desire that is not harmful to anyone else it will be done.
Don't rely on your own ability, friends, and money - the task is too much for you alone. Call on your inner power within you, and let God carry you. God will use methods and people you could never think of helping you. Use prayer to work in tandem with God by deciding what you want (your desire) then focusing on it constantly, and then working hard to achieve your goal. (Yes we still have to work) Don't wait to call on God when something bad happens - that's being late. Call on God to help improve your life before things get too far out of hand. Be proactive not reactive!!
I will leave you with this: Know that you are powerful, claim it, accept it and use this knowledge to do something about the things you want to change next year!! Here is a poem I wrote - hope you like it.
The Power Within
Within you lies your destiny, Let this truth remove all fear.
Know that you are one with God, with the power to control your world while here.
Love all and Hate none and work toward the universal good.
Know and believe in your own power and let it be understood.
What you want will be yours if you set forth your claim.
Once you understand the spiritual laws of soul and mind, everything you desire you will attain.
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New Year New YOU!!
Did you know that the purpose of life is to become better? To be better today than you were yesterday. To be better this year than you were 10 years ago. It doesn't mean you are perfect or that you will be perfect or should be perfect. It just means you should honestly try to become better. To make better decisions this week than you did last week. As you improve with each small step, you will feel better and continue to do better each day.
Anybody that knows me...knows that I have some issues :-) and that's okay because I know what they are, and I am working to become better. However I can say with every fiber in my being that I am 1000 percent better than I was 10 even 20 years ago. So remember when people come out of the woodwork to judge us, they have no real power over us because we know that we may have flaws, but we are getting better.
This blog site explains that the foundation of success comes from within by...taking ownership of your life, believing you deserve to be happy, loving yourself, and having a spiritual foundation. However the degree and the height of your success will be determined by your SELF-ESTEEM.
I am going to give you 5 ways to increase your self-esteem, which will increase your postive attitude and allow for you to jump start your new year and become a new you!
BUILDING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM WITH FIVESIMPLE STEPS
1. Love and take care of yourself! Love yourself enough not to make bad decisions that risk your health, and happiness! Many of our poor choices come from the fact that we are not happy! So we hurt ourselves through reckless behavior! Say to yourself, “I love myself, I love myself!” over 100 times per day until you get it! You can’t give love to anyone else, if you don’t first have love for yourself!
2. Believe you can do it! Increase your positive self-talk! Tell yourself, “I can do it!” “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!” “I am bright, I am successful, I am energetic!”
3. Help others! The best way to get out of a depression is to see someone worse off than you. Get out and help someone less fortunate than you are, and you will get a tremendous boost to your self-esteem and happiness!
4. Always do your best. When you try to get away with giving a poor effort or doing things you KNOW you shouldn’t—even when you believe you have gotten away with it—you haven’t! It weakens your self-esteem because deep down inside you know better.
5. Be comfortable with who you are! We all have faults—physical, emotional and psychological. Your job in life is to become better. REMEMBER: You don’t have to be the best, just be your best.
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The end of all learning is to serve mankind, one's country, one's family and one's friends
Here is a list of reasons why we should strive to be as successful and self-sufficient as possible:
Freedom to travel.
Freedom to explore.
Freedom to learn.
Freedom from worry about life necessities.
Freedom to give away time and money to others.
Freedom from the corruption of competition.
Security that all our family needs are met.
Security that we can provide an adequate environment for family.
Opportunity to add to the good in the world.
Opportunity to facilitate positive change in the world.
Opportunity to provide inspiration to others.
Opportunity to be an example to others.
Credibility to speak through firsthand experience and with authority.
It allows us to live life to the fullest as God intended.
It allows us to serve in a greater capacity and with a larger scope.
In regards to wealth: I feel it is our responsibility to be abundant. As a citizen of this great nation where others from 3rd world countries would gladly risk life and limb or give 10 years of their own life just for the opportunity that we have now. It is our obligation to make the most out of ourselves and to make it our life's work to give back to not only our country but the world in service.
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Have you noticed that we have a natural urge within us to be better? Like seeds planted into the ground - we have a natural desire to grow upward and outward. We all want to be better. A better job, better house, more money, successful friends - just an overall desire to be happier!! What's funny, is that we often refuse to improve our lives because we believe the task is too big. There is no way we can overcome all the things that are currently wrong with our lives so why bother!!? However the truth is - We don't have to be perfect to change our lives!! And we don't have to change ALL our problems at once to SIGNIFICANTLY improve our circumstances!
We are so hard on ourselves! We are often our harshest critic and our worst enemy. We often talk ourselves out of change before we even start. We let fear control us and hard work discourage us. Isn't it interesting that change is what we want, but change is what we refuse to do!! Well for the New Year I am asking you not to let fear control your life. Keep a look out for fear based thinking and where it is limiting your life. If you don't do this for you, no one else will.
The New Year is fast approaching and the time to plan and create change is now. If you want your life to change you will have to change first. Start by thinking of ONE THING YOU WANT TO CHANGE. If you eat fast food 4 times a week get it down to 3 times a week. If you drink 12 alcoholic drinks a week and you want to lower that number, get it down to 9 drinks. Just look to improve in small steps and use the momentum of small successes to improve and build even more. If you want to start a business, sit down and think of a name. Then go downtown and a file for a 10 dollar business license. Motion creates emotion. These are all small simple changes that will add up and significantly change your life. Change doesn't happen overnight but you can begin the change process overnight.
Also look to make yourself better next year. Make yourself more valuable. Read a new book that will give you increased insight into a topic of interest or a subject about your job. If you increase your value and what you can offer the money will come later. Get rid of the poor belief of pay me first - then I will do more work. You can't get a crop without FIRST PLANTING a seed. You give FIRST, and then you RECEIVE. And most of all learn something new!! Never believe you know it all!! When you do think you know it all - as most of us do - learning stops and you rest content in ignorance!! Learning is the key to a new life and every goal and dream you desire!!
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THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN YOU AND AFORTUNE 500 CEO
What is the difference between you and a CEO who makes a multi-million dollar income? The answer is NOTHING!! You ask, “How can that be possible?” They are extremely successful; they have power, money, and influence and live incredible lives of luxury—and yes that may be true. However, I say to you, there is no fundamental difference between you and them! They have only done something that you have not done; but nothing you cannot do! The old saying goes, they put their pants on the same way you do. Never sell yourself short! We are all made from the same substance; we all have the same fears and insecurities; we all share the same joys, loves and pains. The ONLY difference is that highly successful people have learned to apply certain traits and habits that lead to success! You want to be successful? Adopt the following habits and you can write your own ticket:
• The habit of self-discipline.
• The habit of overcoming fear.
• The habit of overcoming failure.
• The habit of overcoming procrastination.
• The habit of staying positive and motivated.
• And the habit of giving more than what is asked for.
These are the habits of success and can be practiced by EVERYONE—no matter of your color, social background and financial status. Success is the sum total of your habits. It's not doing one thing well for a day but doing one thing well for 6 months straight. That's showing the world you are serious about change.
The previous was is an excerpt from Learning to Live: 10 Principles of Success
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